Motherhood. The chapter of my life I always looked forward to. I knew what kind of mother I wanted to be for my kids. I was blessed to have had several opportunities to work with children of all ages and needs. I have worked in schools, transportation, nannying, respite care, and daycares. I have acquired quite a bit of knowledge from working in these areas but to this day I am still learning now that I have three children of my own.
My son was born February 2017 full term and healthy as can be. I got to take him home after a couple days in the hospital. Believe me he never left my sight! I constantly would hold him even when he slept. I was “that” kind of first mom! I got better as he got older and I learned a heck of a lot that first year.
Then my husband and I found out we were pregnant again when my son was 9.5 months. It honestly came as a surprise to both of us but we were excited to grow our little family once more!
About two months along, we found out from the doctor that we were having twins. We were shocked and could not believe it! I’m sure anyone would be finding that a surprise!
Fast forward 8 months, my twin girls were born in June 2018 at 33 weeks and stayed in the NICU for the first month of life. If anyone knows what NICU life is like, then you can agree with me that it’s a hard, stressful time I never would wish on anyone. But that experience made me more humble and wanting to be there for other moms who need someone through hard times.
I know I don’t know everything about being a mom. I still have a lot to learn but I do everything I can to be the best mom I can possibly be for my kids everyday. Some days are better than others, which I think we can agree that we all go through that.
We are a community. We stand together because we can relate to one another through our struggles and accomplishments. We share advice in several different areas of motherhood. We offer support through hardships.
Here’s where I am going to get real with you for a minute!
Why do I see so many women “mom-shame” one another for choosing one method over another? Why do we put down women who decide to formula feed their baby? Why do we slander breastfeeding women in public? Why are we constantly telling moms how they should be Moms?
Now I know there are some exceptions to this when mothers consciously make poor decisions that affect their children. But that is a small percentage. And I am not referring to them here.
I am talking about the mothers who are told they are not good enough. The ones who assume that you don’t know what you are doing so they are going to tell you “how to be a mother”.
I’m sorry but why is this okay?!
I’m sure some of you can relate to my frustrations or have seen it first hand. This world is already in disarray, lets not bring our mothers down with it. We need to stand up for one another to say enough is ENOUGH.
Whether you’re reading this on your way to work, on your break, in between shifts, in between kids naps, or you’re laying in bed after a long day, know you are NOT alone in this. Send a mother you know a message telling them they are doing a great job. Because someone could be having a rough day or maybe isn’t told they are doing great ever. We need to support one another.
We all may come from different backgrounds, but we all strive to be the very best mother we can be for our children. That my ladies is why we are so much stronger when we stand together!
If you are struggling, know you have a mommy pact right here!
I want to provide a support group for all moms. A safe space to ask for advice, to vent about life problems, to seek support from other moms going through similar situations, and a place for moms to get away from the chaos!
If you are the mom who stays in her pajamas and avoids going out in public, the mom who hates being social (introvert like me), the mom who doesn’t have any time to keep up with her social life, or the mom who needs friends but doesn’t know where to look.
Well look no further because this is the right place for you!
I also want to get your input on what you need. I want to know what you want to hear me talk about!
I want for this support group to be the start of a new beginning for moms. I want to bring more positivity into your life and help you become the BEST version of yourself!
We can do this together and get through anything!
Join the Mommy Pact TODAY!
Any concerns or questions you may have you can leave in the comments section or send me an email!